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From The Female’s Point Of View – Understanding Stereotypes, Stigmas, Mindsets

Stigma in the Society is- a Living In Relation not for a Male counter -part but for a Female as she is mostly viewed and prejudiced as someone of a “Bad Character”. It has nothing to do with her Reputation but she will always be viewed as a Characterless Efficacy to be misleading and demoting the Society’s values. I do not see how every reasoning has to be pressurized and put across a Female, is she not a “human” can she never have the – Right to Choose the kind of life she wants to lead and live? Why has it to be like she does not want to be!  She will be the one who would be pressurized from Childhood to grow up not to ask questions out of Curiosity, she can never question anything all she is given  to swallow– You are a Female live your Life at your parental home learning the Dogmas, stereotypes and mindsets, follow all the teachings at the place where she gets married. She never lives her life. She is never questioned what she want to do. Just make everyone around “Please”.

The day everyone around the Society comes to know she has male friends she will be starred as too she is doing something very wrong. She is willingly not Competing with any Male.

 It is just that she wants to live her part of the Life she has been bestowed not with the stigmas and mindsets doing the rounds – policing and patrolling her Life like an Alien from another Galaxy!

Too much openness of her thought process is mostly viewed as very Dangerous to the place she will be “married off “family. They want a Robot who does as she is been told too even it is wrong she must follow it. Her Happiness has no meaning and no one gives a Damn to what she –Feels and what is the heightened Emotions she must be going through each Moment of her Life.

She is educated only because she can be spoken off as an ‘educated female in front of her Husband’s friends and colleagues. It is considered too much education can Brain-wash her mind and she will consider herself Superior to her Husband.  Her knowledge, Intelligence, Intellectual level are more often –Mocked, made fun off.

She is always reminded “You are nothing infront of a Male because she wants to be remembered as a mistake to do anything Right which might be good work, skill craft as mere –Luck favored her not the hard work she puts in it, more so any man who sees her as a competition will do anything to put her down mostly- Mentally where she will go to a Depression phase where the Society will instigate to tell the truth,  they will laugh her off reminding – we told You so”.

A break-up in a Love Affair would be seen as she has done it all and many often will be questioned about her Virginity! It is so Gross! Those who have to go through such austerities cry that they will be made to look Wrong does not matter they have committed anything wrong or not is- never a Question in the Society’s Conscience.

Some men will come to her with the Pretense of showing some Sympathy, they forget that Females never look forward to Sympathy – it really insults their Pride!

So when a Female lives in with her partner, she will be looked as too if she gets married to the same Man that is fine, if  a break-up happens then she will be  looked down upon! It is a tricky Route she decides to take when in Love but if things go wrong and she never wants to go along the path the Man in her Life wants her to be going, she finally decides to break-off she will be stoned brutally by the same so-called acquaintances who were with her in her happy days.

Breaking the Stereotypes is not a question to be asked but to be implemented to set an example to make further generation of Females be safe and sound, not looked down  upon, not to be viewed in some terrible ways!

What she does want to do is never the question, what she must do will be the top most priority.

I do not say everything is bad. There are parents who give Freedom and Independence to the Females to do what they wish to do in their Life. They are never judged under the “petri-dish” under the surveillance of the Microscope. But the Females do not speak about it to the Society as she and her Family will be cornered.

That might be one of the few reasons why this Society does not legalize LGBT because the Male and Female relations are still being scrutinized and needs to be understood in depth!

P.S. The viewpoints expressed are totally under the confidence who shared their thoughts with Me. Every Individual should be able to put their side of the story nothing to agitate the Values or Traditions of the Society.

The Principles and Values of Life to be ‘Lead’

To the amusement of many Ruth lived her Life on her terms. Many of her friends were infuriated at the Idea how could she detach herself from the priorities set by the Society norms. There was one thought about her actions and thoughts she never broke ‘The Code of Conduct’. Ruth seriously maintained she was going to take every hurdle and obstacle of her path in the journey of her Life as Uncertainty to learn the Principles and Values of Life to be ‘Lead’.

It was a Herculean task from the start. She bitterly cried, wallowed, making her eyes look that of owls of the night when she started to lead life on her own. She knew from the depth of heart it will never be Easy to stand on her own to ask queries, be lifted to the Dias of Life without knowing anyone Confirmative Humans called – Friends.

Appearing as friendly Humans they made enough obstacles to see how she gets the task down in the Maze jig jaw puzzle! They never forgot to pour acid on her Wounds as soon they saw new skin evolving to Heal her Wound! –Positivity can never be seen as outshining by Negate Individuals out of Fear.

Wounds put together

By her friends

Making sure she never

Gets it cured!

Ruth started being selective about the random strangers she spoke about her struggles, there were many who believed her, did not detach her , gave her the shoulder where she could sleep sometimes without the Alertness of the Mind- CAREFREE as we say!

Times roughed out a bit more where everyone started scratching her wounds without much knowing to their Individual know how why, what is making them do what they are doing. They were having fun seems they were kinda ‘Bored’ in their Lives! They needed an Amusement Park to make their lives to fill with sense and feel the feelings!

Passionate, Loyal, Brave

Went Ruth to Hell

With the Fear, anguish, Anxiety

To give Birth to Insomnia!

Tough situations were procured out of know where to see the ‘Survival Instincts’ to make experiment if Charles Darwin’s theory of –Responsive to Change happens!

Ruth never got time to react to the situations she only moved positively from one situation to the other. She as guaranteed herself that whatever experience she is encountering from here from the Time here and nowhere will keep her moving forward to the Future which is unknown to many of the Game planners of the Life! What will majority of the observers do is Ignore her Plight, start questioning her out of Curiosity-what has led to the Series of obstacles and hurdles in her Life?

Life’s tough but Tougher is the Mental Strength of Ruth’s  Mind that keeps things progressing even in a Fury of Storm, Hail and Thunder!  All in all Ruth knew the Day she Revealed to the world –Her True Self she will be pushed, cornered, bullied, confronted by the Individuals she loved and cared for! The ‘push ‘ she got was from the Inner self of Nature observation, to her Intuition and Instincts.

She knew from Childhood she was Unique in her own terms, Life looks quite different in her eyes of viewing situations circumstances. She knew the answers of many questions where all the Elders will be grim and grumpy about looking out for a realistic approach. Her knowing how will lead her life in her own Terms was a distinctive decision Nature made when she opened her eyes on the Earth. Nature ensured she got out of the trouble by some means the ideas and witty nature inbuilt to help her out mostly. She was Nature’s Child to be productive and constructive to the work she willingly thought where no Minds was even passing by. Yes she met a few co- Fellow Like- Minded people in the Journey , she always can Relate her story to theirs!

A Gypsy In The Metropolitan

It is been ages living in a Metropolitan city, every resources to avail to the latest ‘Brands’ to the Desi Vibes.

One comes to understand that a Metropolitan city is a cosmos where open minded and like- minded individuals move around. So was My belief when I came to the city pursuing Higher education  to the Euphoric moment of joining the Job dreamt off.

Later I started  understanding amidst of all the enjoyment of going to high-end places  to enjoy weekends  and meeting different sects of individuals, no one is not ‘open minded’, their Windows of their Minds are totally shut down.  It is not what we clothe and drink that makes us, it is the inner self that makes or breaks us!

Living the life with stereo-types and mindsets which will mostly never Change is hell of a living. At the beginning I surly shared every open minded thoughts but latter on I shut my ‘Mouth piece’.

There is too much of trying to ‘Mould’ or set anyone into a ‘Pattern’ of Monotony!

I know enough Individuals who are open and do not fit into any schedule except when they go to job which is 9A.M.-5 P.M. One needs to earn, no one pay the bills!

Acceptance of  individuals if they say – they are not decided what career they want to choose becomes a serious question it is more of a pride of the Family towards the Society rather than the Individual studying or earning Money.

 Many Females if they say that they are ‘not decided to when they want to get married!’ is kind of not following some pattern and comes under SCANNER of the Hubble Telescope! The females when they are born are always and mostly treated in a way that they will leave their Parental home and live her life with her Husband. She will be questioned why she is not marrying to be discussed if her Reproductive organs are fine or outdated that she will not be able to give a Heir to the family she gets married!

Breaking away from the ‘Monotony’ is  questionable!  One will be put as an outsider just not accepted why some will not decide on a career or why one will not Marry? Situations mount to the queries mostly being asked to the parents and the Individual in question. Nothing is decided can never be the REPLY! It is never that the Individual is ‘confused’ certain times they take their life lightly rather than heavily to the Rat Race.

The Society will dig in as they might have been  given some Archeologist’s  Profile happily gossiping, creating stories to restore their ‘Blind Faith’ intact! Pretending and being Superficial in understanding carries no Empathy if I may conclude everyone understands that in Today’s date.

My open question is –why should everything move in the Society as pre-planned as in terms of Monotony of a Life of a Human Being?

Should the Society not Change their view points rather Change the Individual to fit in the Society?

Is everything all about the Competition in the Society- to have the biggest house, to owning the pricy car, to owning amount of jewelry  which can never be worn at one go. Children studying competing with each other to secure the First place what is wrong in being a Back bencher!

The Universe, the Earth, the World has enough Space every Individual except the Society if the norms of Rules are not followed!

The Heart Yearns For That Love

Does not your Heart yearn for the Love

who would Hold You close to his/her Heart

Does not your Heart yearn for the Love

who would Understand all of You without questioning

Does not your Heart yearn for the Love 

who would see You the WAY you are

without breaking you into pieces,

            moulding you into clay,

             changing you to suit his/her standards!